It’s a common reaction to my lessons. A look of fear, body language of defeat or sometimes even big crocodile tears. There has also been the random cuss words, sticks thrown and stomping of the feet when disappointment hits that there’s still things to improve. This usually leads me to ask players, “Who has sold you on the philosophy that you can reach your potential without honest assessment, struggle or work?”

The late professor and author of The Last Lecture, Randy Pausch, said, “The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something.” In his book, Discourses, the amazing philosopher, Epictetus, explains that without the crisis or conditions to stir Hercules into action he would of never had the arms, the physique or noble soul to accomplish anything. Epictetus continues, “With the absence of challenges Hercules would just rolled over in bed and gone back to sleep.” How boring!

How do you face disappointment? Has an event, challenge or person shown you that you aren’t as good as you thought you were? Are there walls keeping you from being whom you want to be today? Epictetus poses the question, “If you didn’t learn these things in order to demonstrate them in practice, what did you learn them for?” These “things” I believe that Epictetus is talking about are a strong will, character, grit, tenacity, leadership, etc. Things we don’t get while just sleeping in bed. Therefore, let’s face disappointment or struggles or obstacles knowing that it’s in these moments God is pruning us to be the best we can be so we can also help others be the best they can be. HOOYAH!

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